How to bond with kids in boarding school

Catherine  Ruhweza

I was raised in a boarding school.  Both my primary and most of my secondary school was in boarding school. Looking back now, that was the in thing in the 80s  when growing up.   I still remember how much I cried when my mum dropped me off  at boarding school in primary one. I just wanted to be home. I wanted to enjoy the niece things at home , the good meals ,  and  not  the   perennial  diet of posho and beans that most boarding schools offered. But  good  food is not the only thing that children in boarding school  miss out 

  They also  miss  out on bonding opportunities with their parents. Parents should seek ways of building and strengthening relationships with children who study away from home.

When you keep this close relationship you will know when your child is encountering a developmental challenge,emotional challenge and when to best interven. Also illicit behaviour like alcohol,drugs,sexual addiction can all be detected and harnessed with in time if parent deliberately cultivated a naturing relationship with the children in boarding school.

So how do you build your relationship and stay close to your children when they are away in boarding school?

1. Keep communication lines open: Some parents forget about their children the moment they pack them and send them off to school, only to pick them again at end of term. Your children will feel rejected if you do this. And in order to over come their rejection, they may turn to other obsessive or unbecoming behavior. And this can happen latter in life. So make sure you keep the communication lines open. Make a call at least twice in a week; write letters send emails, whatever you can do to keep in touch with your child do it .This will help keep the emotional connection and the commitment to the values you have taught them.